Who Knows?

The eventful year of 2020, what have we done this year? Seems like we’ve been too caught up with ourselves and didn’t realize that 2020 was slowly coming to an end. The day the clock struck midnight, we would pop champagne bottles and laugh happily with our now reunited long-lost friends. Visiting our hometown to celebrate the new year with our lovely family and end the year with fireworks and wishes. But this year, everywhere, including Germany, will celebrate it a little bit differently from our previous years.

Look in the phone. Group of young cheerful friends having fun, hug each other and takes selfie on the roof with decorate light bulbs.

One of the reasons is the second lockdown or the Lockdown 2.0 held in Germany. A lockdown will be held from December 16th of 2020 until January 10th, 2021 (16.12.20-10.01.21). Some of the lockdown policies include prohibiting big gatherings like parties and significant events and not allowing us to go out from 9PM – 5AM.  Although this is a different case if someone is going to work during the said time. Due to the current situation, people need to have a document to explain their working status. This doesn’t mean we’re not allowed to go out during the day and do our own daily activities, but another policy that is a must to do is to wear a mask. If you are inside, or outside a mask will always have to accompany you wherever you go. To keep yourself and everyone else safe, a mask is strictly a must to wear. But then again, staying home at these times is always the best option. It indeed isn’t essential for us to go out at these times, despite us being bored at home.

Will a mask function the same if we don’t cover our nose and/or mouth? As we all know, most of us in Germany use public transportations. To go to our own desired workspaces, going to school, or even to meet your significant other. This means that public transports are usually packed with people, remember to wear the mask that covers your NOSE and MOUTH to keep yourself and others safe. Not following these said rules will allow people to get fined with quite a large amount of money or be approached by police.

With this current situation, no one knows when this will end. New cases rapidly increasing, percentages higher than our previous lockdown. Government officials are trying their best to keep the cases as low as possible, aiming to have access to the (coronavirus) vaccinations on December 27th, hoping that this will end this living nightmare.

We’d suspected everything would be like it used to at the end of the year during the first lockdown. People still planning where they’re going for a vacation after this no-so brief lockdown ends. Some of us, including me, even made plans for Christmas and upcoming New Year events. Unfortunately, those plans still stayed in our imagination and cannot be down this year. No significant events, with tasty hotpots or a barbeque grill party this year? Or the night would be dark with no fireworks lit up in the sky? What should we do during new year’s eve, instead of acting like nothing happened? Acting as if New Year was just a typical national holiday, and sleeping in?

Just because there aren’t any big parties or bright colored fireworks lit up in the city center, there will always be a way to overcome this feeling of adapting to new changes—things like visiting your neighbor with tiny groups of people. Most of the students live in their university’s apartment, or some of us live in a single apartment, and the others living in tenants shared with other people. Or people like me sharing a flat with other international students. In this situation, having neighbors will be a great advantage to get to know them better.

This is an excellent time for us, especially for people who rarely communicate with their neighbors. Creating a stronger bond with each other and become lifelong best friends. It indeed isn’t a very fancy and special something, but why not? The more, the merrier, and it’s better to have friends instead of eating by yourself in a room. You could talk about so many things, how crazy this year has been and how you have changed during this pandemic. On the bright side, at least you’d save just a little pocket money for next year instead of buying fireworks or flight tickets.

New year’s eve isn’t just all about parties and champagne, but it’s about being close to the people you love. Those are the most important people, your family, and friends. A simple phone call to their parents or friends could bring a smile to their faces; just because this year is slightly a little bit different doesn’t mean the new year’s spirit disappears. Nervertheless, a holiday for some students means reviewing all the subjects again before the finals ( usually around February or March).

Although we have planned what to do during New Year’s eve. To be alone or gather with a small group, or even have a party or a simple study night. No matter what it is, no one knows what will happen in the next few days before the New Year. Who knows, the government might change or even add some new rules. But what I believe, the following year we will become stronger, braver, and a better person. Most importantly, we must keep up our faith and hope because if there’s a will, there’s a way.

 

 

written by:

  • Andy Susanto
  • Ariya Nalasetya

The Art of Self Love: Loving Yourself Is Important

Nowadays, having anxiety is a ubiquitous thing in this generation. Some people still have this fear of doing something or express their opinion. Because they are afraid of other people’s reactions or judgment. Social media is a big platform to express your feeling, thought, and sharing information easily and quickly spread. That means that everything you do may affect others, which will lead to a judgment from other people; it can be positive and negative. Aside from social media, it also can happen in our society.

Positive responses are good; they make us feel ‘satisfied’ or ‘accomplished’ on what we have done. Adverse reactions may lead to a lack of confidence in ourselves, making us question our own values that will cause so-called self-hatred. Based on Psychology Today Articles about Self-hatred, it is not a disorder, but it is one of several possible symptoms of depression. The DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) articulates this symptom as “feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt (which may be delusional) nearly every day (not merely self-reproach or guilt about being sick).” When you have those kinds of feelings, it can be dangerous and lead you to harm yourself.  

           As human beings, we have worth, worth of living, and worthy of being loved by someone, especially by ourselves, because we can cultivate self-love. Loving yourself is essential, and it can be the key to find your true happiness and who you really are. But then people might ask: “What exactly is self-love?” and don’t know how to self-love, or even they don’t know how to start. But first, we have to see the definition of self-love. Self-love is an act of giving an appreciation of one’s own worth and well-being. Self-love also means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves.

            People might think that self-love is hard to apply, but it’s not hard yet not that easy if we are committed to practicing self-love. We’ve all heard the benefits of self-love, and we know that self-love is something we need. The real question is how. How can we learn to love ourselves? Here are steps you can take to set you on the fulfilling path toward true self-love:

  1. 1. Giving a little appreciation to yourself

            After doing some hard works, give yourself a little appreciation, just merely by saying this: “You did a great job today. Thank you.”

  1. 2. Being true to yourself

            Being true to yourself is a personal choice for truth, making choices about how you want to live. Don’t let others take control of yourself because you have the total power to live your life in any way you wish to and be faithful and factual to the truth about you.

  1. Learn to forgive yourself

            People make mistakes. But don’t make those mistakes as your reason to give up instead of making those a learning process. So, forgiving yourself when you aren’t lovely or genuine to yourself. 

  1. Learn to listen to yourself

            Listening to yourself can mean two things. Firstly, paying attention to how you internally talk to yourself is crucial for cultivating an intimate feeling of self-love. Secondly, during times of emotional distress, asking yourself the question “What do I need?” and listening mindfully to the answer can prove invaluable.

  1. Giving yourself a break from self-judgment

            You may be tempted to judge yourself as a failure at fixing your low self-esteem, but what you really are is a person making a long and sometimes challenging journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. Don’t hold yourself to unrealistic standards and expect to quickly transform what are often lifelong thinking habits. 

  1. Stop comparing yourself with others

            People have their own values and their own uniqueness or strength to shine. So, stop comparing yourself with others because you are you.

  1. Relearning about yourself

            Mindfulness can help us to relearn. Recognizing yourselves with pleasure in this way is an essential component of self-kindness. For instants, yoga is the best choice to regain a sense of satisfaction to increase mindfulness and help you along the road to self-compassion.  

Just a little reminder for all of us:

            Problems are a continual thing in life. They just don’t go away. Instead, they improve. If you avoid problems, it doesn’t mean that your life will be more comfortable. The key is in solving the issues, not in not having problems in the first place. Knowing ourselves better is very important to solve our problems in a good and proper way to understand our own values. Every person has their own remedy. The only one who knows our needs is ourselves.

            However, don’t push away others who tried to help you because we, as social beings, need each other’s help. If something terrible happens to you or you are getting hurt, do not be afraid to seek help through close friends and family or psychologists because they know how to handle it professionally and give you some therapy to help overcome self-hatred another mental illness.  

“Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?” – from Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes.

 

 

 

Written by Aisha Zahra Paramarta and

 

Sources : 

 

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-does-it-mean-to-be-t_b_8033654 

https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/self-love-and-what-it-means

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-does-it-mean-to-be-t_b_8033654

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/self-hatred#what-causes-self-hatred

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321309#Yoga-and-relearning-pleasure

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